Do you try to hide the truth when you've done something wrong? Are we too cowardly to face the facts and admit that we done something wrong?Do we prefer to carry the guilt and the weight instead of just letting people be mad for a moment and forgive us shortly after?
Guilt can tear people apart and a lot of people will let it. Then again, it is easier not to say anything and let someone else figure things out. Facing the truth is a L-O-T harder to do. But why do we let the power of guilt kill us before we confess?
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I agree with ya, Jessi, being well-acquainted with the powers of guilt myself. There's a lot of things I've done that I feel guilty of - feel ashamed, regretful, and generally... just bad about.
ReplyDeleteConfession and not keeping secrets like that is, pretty much always, the easiest way to deal with guilt - to just solve the problem, if there is one. But in some cases, the guilt is a 'guilty pleasure' that people know is wrong, but they do it anyway, and then feel bad mercilessly after - binge drinking, drug use, lust and dirty dancing, things that we file away in our memories under 'dirty secrets' and never let them see the light of day - but like in all dark places, the moss of guilt creeps over them and just grows. And because whether we can't admit it or we KNOW we did something wrong, we can't bear to show it to anyone - because we're ashamed of ourselves, and fearful of what they might think.
It comes with any bad act. The druggie who shoots up with his parent's money, the partier who bombs a test because of a hangover, the person who went too far in sex when they weren't quite ready... each of these are different, but similar, kinds of guilt, but each dwell on it the same.
I think in some cases... not even confession can help, as it doesn't change the fact of what happened. But the important thing is, confession is the first step towards forgiveness, or resolution, but it's a tough road - one many people are, simply, afraid to take.