Ok, so there's this guy and he's dating this girl that I know. They are 3 academic years apart. So, they're both in high school. She is a naive little girl who thinks she has the world on a leash and knows all there is to know about life. She has had a lot of relationships and not many of them had been all to positive. He wants to show her that there can be more to a relationship and it can be a very positive thing.Here comes my problem with the situation.
With such an age gap and him going to university next, he is considered to be too old for this younger girl. Her parents found out about the relationship and sat him down to talk. They are not at all fond of the situation. They want them to break up. They do not like the situation that their daughter is in being in a relationship with this older boy. The boy knows this, and is just about throwing what the parents think out the window. He "cares" too much about her. He would do "anything" for her, but will not show her that she needs to respect what her parents think and her parents descisions.
It has only been about a month and a half that they have been together and he "loves" her, Oh so much. SHE'S ONLY FOURTEEN! Does anyone else see a problem there? Other than me? What he feels is not love for her, but instead I deeply care about you. There is a BIG difference there!
Her last boyfriend was talking bad about her today. Her "lover" went over to her house and I was later told that if he see him, he is going to put his fist in the back of that boys nose. Although he knows full well her parents will greatly disapprove of him anymore. He wants to show her a good relationship, but what good is coming out of it. Her parents are not liking the way that she treats them. She takes almost no responsibility for anything in her family or the home. She's starting to get into the habit of liying to her parents or not telling them the full truth so that she can go see him.
He was a friend of mine, but with the way the "relationship" is going. I'm not liking it at all. Can anyone agree with me? I feel that there is something vastly wrong with some of the youth in the world today. They are sinister, deceiving and misheivious just so they can get what they want or be "cool."
Someone please agree with me.
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I get what your saying, and I agree. I also know the two people your speaking of.
ReplyDeleteIts a strange thing, the age barrier. One thing we can be sure of is that little problems like this seam to work themselvs out sooner or later... just as I think this one already has.
The thing that still baffles me is the use of the word love. But I think you know were I'm coming from.
Alright so I just typed a whole page or more and lost everything I said but whatever. I think the word Love is thrown around a little too frivously these days and people need to take the time to get to know eachother before they start saying the L word. Teen agers get all hung up on emotions and forget about reality , I am not saying that they don't understand what love is . I am sure most understand love from the time they were babies from their parents and family. Do we just get hung up on the hormone aspect of it all or do we really know what we are tialking about? I don' tknow any thoughts?
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that had happened teenangel. I would have liked to have read what you had written.
ReplyDeleteI agree entirely with what you have said. Some people will have ten or more relationships and be "in Love" with each and everyone of them until the situation isn't right anymore.
I think that for the most part it could very well be the hormone aspect of it. Because we are young, we are just starting to stretch our wings in to the world. We don’t and won’t understand what true love is so early on. Many teens can confuse love with caring. High school relationships are mostly about two people caring about each other and wanting to protect that person. But, I personally feel that it’s not really love.
To me, love should coincide with reality. Many teens in high school that have a relationship, has that relationship begin to consume them. All they want to do is talk to, be with, talk about their boyfriend or girlfriend. But when you’re really in love, I feel that you should be able to live an unconsumed life and be in love with that one special person. That is to say, you should be able to live your own life and you each help each other through the rough spots and enjoy the good times together. You shouldn’t abandon your friends to hang out with your bf/gf. You shouldn’t run out on family events for that person. You should enjoy your life as a teen but don’t let a relationship pull you down.
*I hope that was understandable.*
When it comes to high school relationships, I think that we all get caught up. There’s this new found sense of freedom and someone that cares about you in a different way than your parents. It’s exciting and thrilling and we want to soak up as much of it as we possibly can.
I can’t quite comment on the hormone aspect, because it can mean a few different things and it does not mostly apply. But, it can play a role.
I think that the more relationships we have (whether it be two or twelve, the amount varies per person) and the more we grow up and mature, the more we begin to understand. For some people, understanding does take more time than others and that’s alright. Some people (as becoming common in our society) never understand what it means to be in truly in love. Everything varies upon the person’s experiences and life.
At the beginning, no, I would say that we don’t know what we’re talking about. We base things off of books and movies and stories from friends and family, even though a great deal of it does not relate to ourselves. But, the more we learn about ourselves and the qualities and characteristics that compliment our own, the more we begin to unlock the secret to our own true love.
I find this interesting, especially because I'm in a relationship with a younger girl.
ReplyDeleteIt's also different because in this case, I'm not dating, but courting her.
I asked her parents for permission before we started to court, and they said yes. We have rules to obey, and though they seem harsh, we listen (Most of the time. Sometimes we just need to snuggle).
But I believe it can be good, as long as the man helps the woman to grow, and the woman keeps him feeling young, and carefree (not in a sexual way. >.>)
But yes, that situation sounds bad.
*I Agree*