There was one day at school when someone tried to insult me by what I was wearing. I laughed at them.I wear what I wear because that's what I want to wear. I want to look like a freak and turn heads because I'm not into all the American Eagle "Must Have" crap. But the question I must ask, is why someone would dare to insult what I wear when I'm just like a conservative punk. I layer stuff and nothing "hangs out." I don't wear mini skirts that just barely cover my underwear unless it's right on top of the comfiest pair of jeans I own. I don't wear tank tops to school unless it's ontop of a nice tee-shirt. So, why?
Is it because I don't feel the need to conform? Because I don't want every head staring and looking at what's down my shirt? Or up my skirt? I think it is becoming the "cultural norm" to show things off. Especially for girls and women. Can't people just take the time and, GET DRESSED! People go to school and wear less than a Barbie doll and get away with it! The only time I see the dress code enforced is when I was talking to a ninth grade class for my Art teacher and told a girl to put her sweater on! That was almost five months ago!
I find it incredibly stupid actually. That girls feel the need to dress the way they do. I dread going into Garage with my sister or friends and listening to their, "This is so cute!"s or "That's so hot!"s or "Oh my gosh, I HAVE to get it"s. It's really annoying after awhile.
But aside from all of my little ranting here, it being late and I'm tired, what can anyone do to fix this problem? MANY people need to start getting their act together. But it can start with one. Parents, being that I work in retail and see this, dress inapropriately and their children come in with them-and this is a pet store mind you....- and their thirteen year old girls look as if they were twenty six and ready to go to a bar or a club! WHAT IS UP WITH THAT!
Either way, I do believe that most things can be blamed upon parents and the media. TV shows advertise kids dressing a certain way and kids are like, "Hey, that looks cool. I want to wear what they're wearing!" and then the chain begins.
I like my style. No one can change that.
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Totally agree with you here, Jessi, for the most part. I can't stand it when girls dress sluttier (Holly Oliver, for one), in like, miniskirts and shirts that hardly cover anything. It's like they're just objectifying themselves or showing off, and personally I prefer a girl who wears much more elegant or covering stuff, to show they don't need all that crap to attract people (plus, mystery = good - let's leave things to the imagination, people!).
ReplyDeleteYou're probably right that we can blame parents, the media and music videos (I mean hell, some of the girls there are practically strippers already), and even to an extent, the feminism movement, which had such things as a 'liberization' of the 50s super-conservative dress.
xP or something.
And Jessi, I think it's the habit of layering stuff differently (conservative punk, since punk by definition is giving an f-u to the mainstream) that raises a few eyebrows, when it comes to how you dress. xD I mean, I still think it's a little wyrd to wear tank tops -over- t-shirts (but in a good way).
I still think you'd look better in just a t-shirt, though. =3
I LOVE THIS!
ReplyDeleteI watch What Not To Wear sometimes and I think, KNOW that they take it way too far! I like their point of wanting you to see yourself in a good way, and feel good about yourself, but whats so wrong with a regular tshirt and jeans? Or with wearing flip flops or running sneakers? People DO run, you guys... and they cant do that in slinky little shoes that cost 100$.. garr. anyway. I could go on forever, so I might write a blog on it as well, instead of making this comment super duper long, and you may be the only one to read it.. but if your ever talking to your friends about your blog, ca you mention mine too please? I dont get many readers.. LOVE YOU!!
Ok. I see your point. it isn't right to just Slut it up. But dressing with layers isn't for everyone. Some people like to wear things that make them feel good. Sure it isn't always the best way, but you can't really judge anyone on that. it's not fair to anyone. Just because you don't like a store like Garage, doesn't mean that it doesn't have nice clothes that aren't slutty. You have to realize that not everyone is YOU. We all Wear what we wnat because it makes us feel good. I agree that you shouldnt show everything off, that is going too far. But if I want to wear a shirt that isn't covering my to my neck then let me be. Everyone dresses DIFFERENT. It is the way we should be. What you call conforming is just that conforming. But if we all dressed the way you want us to, then again, we are conforming. Just because you like layers and covering up to the neck, and not showing any leg at all, doesn't mean everyone else shouldn't. It also doesn't mean everone else is a slut or wanting everyne to see what they have. Nice jeans are cute, even if they are skin tight. People like them that way because they are comfortable. I LOVE heels. That doesn't make me a slut or make me a person who conforms. It makes me ME! It's something I like. i buy nice heels, I wear those heels. Because they make me feel better about myself. Who cares if they way people dress makes them feel better about themselves. They are doing it for themselves. Not for you. Think about that the next time you say someone is dressed slutty, or someone is just dressing to impress a guy. Or that someone is just being a follower.
ReplyDeleteWe are allowed to like nice clothes and wear them. Not everyone Likes value village or buying second hand. Don't pick on everyone because you like something a certain way. Let them be themselves. Like you claim to.